Building bridges through blogging

This morning in church, our pastor announced that our theme for the year is “building bridges.”

All I could do was nod my head and my heart in acceptance as God confirmed yet again something He has been tugging me toward for a while now.

In June of last year, I felt a strong conviction about my desire to build a platform, a name for myself. I wanted that to change.

I shared how Brooke McGlothlin and Emily Freeman shared these words:

“Speak the truth with your life. Change the world around you by first looking right beside you.“ (Brooke)

“A platform is a stage with the spotlight on you. A bench is a community with no spotlight at all. Build your bench.“ (Emily)

I asked myself how I could follow that advice – taking the spotlight off of myself, looking beside me, and building a bench rather than a platform. I thought about the people in my life that I care the most about. I thought about my closest friends and their needs.

I reached out to my two best friends who are both mothers of children’s with special needs. With their collaboration, I wrote a post with the intention of simply being a blessing to them, building a bench between us as mothers and women who probably have more in common than we realize.

If there was ever a post I wrote where my heart was genuinely in the right place, it was that one. 

This post has been widely received and passed around within the blogging community. A dialogue has been started. Advice has been given. Hard questions are being asked and answered. Women are feeling less alone. And that, more than any number of post views, is what I consider to be one my biggest successes.

I am amazed at the power of empathy. 

In the past six months, my eyes have been opened to other areas in society where there are gaps. In my church I have noticed gaps that exist between single women and married women, young moms and older moms, young women and older women, bloggers and non-bloggers.

My time in the military community and now my time out of that community has showed me the gaps that exist between military and civilian communities.

For the special-needs community, I’m already collaborating with an even bigger group of moms to bring yet another post to continue the dialogue that was started there.

These are all issues that I want to talk about. I want to be a voice that builds benches or builds bridges or bridges gaps or whatever you want to call it. I want to be a voice that spreads grace and heals divisions. I want to be a voice that starts a much-needed dialogue between people facing different circumstances and difficulties. I want to be a voice that helps create unlikely friendships through the power of empathy.

This will take time. It will take collaboration with people I might normally not even talk to. It will take my stepping outside of my comfort zone to look beyond my needs to the needs of others.

And this will take your participation. We need open hearts and minds, sensitivity to the needs and situations of others.

Building Bridges through Blogging

Will you help me, join me on this journey of building bridges? Will you help me spread empathy, grace, and compassion between people in difference life situations?

Thanks in advance,


11 thoughts on “Building bridges through blogging

  1. This is exactly what I have been hoping to do with the adoption community, although I feel very small. I have no idea how to do it or where to start, but I’m in, as well. Rooting for you, Aprille!

  2. Thank you very much, I’am really glad that I’m following you. I’m still figuring out. Just wanted to say that you are an awesome blogger. greetings from Gede Prama ;)

  3. Definitely! It is one of the goals for my Pea of Sweetness blog as well. It’s also one of my goals to help other bloggers spread the word and reach others. I have been making an effort to read more of their posts, Retweet their tweets, share on Facebook, Pinterest, etc. because I realize when we work together we can reach more people! :)

  4. I’m in! As a mother of a daughter with autism, an intervention specialist, and adoptive parent, I’m definitely in. The post you wrote about how to be a good friend to a parent of special needs child was spot on.

  5. Thank you for your willingness to build bridges and benches. As a single mom of six children, four of whom have special needs, I need the bridge and the bench. It is not an easy road, to say the least. One of my favorite quotes is: “I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. What I can do, I should do, and with the help of God, I will do.” – Edward Everett Hale, Patriot. Like you, I want to build bridges and benches. It’s nice to have company. Thanks for writing this blog!

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