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  1. Lidi

    I met my husband as he was getting medically discharged from the Army after 7 1/2 years of service. I never got to know my husband before Iraq, but I know him at his worst. Some days I feel cheated, others blessed. I will always just be a Veterans wife, and that’s OK. Being a Veterans wife is just as amazing and hard. The eggshells our family has had to walk on has taken enough out of us. I’m not sure we could have handled being an Army family as well. As I write this comment my husband is at the VA hospital as an inpatient for severe PTSD, depression, anxiety, and paranoia. It took over 4 years for him to make this step and I couldn’t be more prouder. The road after the Army seems just as long and just as hard. I wish active duty families would look and treat veterans and their families with as much dignity as we due theirs. Just because my husband no longer wears the uniform doesn’t mean he’s any less of a person then your spouse wearing one. If my husband had a choice he would not have been injured while fighting for the USA, he would still be in the Army. I might not understand deployments like you but my struggles are real and hard as well. Holding my husband at night when he can’t remember he is home safe in our house, not in a war zone.

  2. Lisa Black

    PLEASE … put these books and reviews on goodreads and on Amazon.com … you’ll spread these treasures on to others who really need them. Thanks for the Pick Me Up.

    Respectfully in Christ,
    Lisa B.

  3. letwhylead

    Oh I can’t believe I didn’t see this post earlier, Aprille. I’ve never been close with someone who did military life or whose husband was deployed, but honestly, I think I’d be pretty clueless if that friendship came into my life. These thought were really, really helpful from an outside perspective. God bless you, Russ and Ezra for all you’ve done!

  4. […] Individuals: If you know of a veteran’s family in your community, reach out to them. Sometimes we just need a listening ear or anyone to recognize our service (not just the service of the veteran, but that of his or her family as well). If you know of more than one family, considering introducing veterans and their families to each other so that they can connect and receive support. To understand more about what these families might need, please read this post, What this OEF Veteran’s family wishes you knew […]

  5. […] and emotional stability and struggled through many transitions (like reintegration, two moves, and readjusting to civilian life), I’ve been anything but patient. I can imagine that it is excruciatingly painful to struggle […]

  6. Army Vet wife here, too!! My husband had to get out in March 2015 because of an injury. He served 8.5 years. He did NOT want to get out and I didn’t want him to get out, either. But he had no choice because of the injury. There is a VERY big gap and it is so challenging transitioning out. It felt very weird to us and VERY scary! There was a lot of praying and talking to my pastor about the big change. We even joined a support group our last few months in because we were needing the support. We’re doing good now, but we definitely miss it. My husband said if he didn’t have his injury, he would go back to the Army in a heartbeat. I feel you, sister! GREAT post!! Thank you for sharing your story because it needs to be heard! God Bless you guys!

    • For us, it was just the opposite. My husband was miserable in the Army and couldn’t wait to get out. So it was a big relief to be done. However, the transition was FAR more difficult than we expected. The first year was definitely the hardest. He’s been out for just shy of four years, and I feel like it’s just been the last 6 months or so we are adjusted into our new normal. So HANG IN THERE! It does get better!

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