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  1. Thank you for your honesty. I know that my husband and I are still married after 13 years because of God’s grace in helping us to stay committed to one another. Life is not for the faint of heart!

  2. Great post, Katie. My husband is in the Army National Guard. We have 3 boys and the oldest was born with Smith-Magenis Syndrome. Long separations are hard enough, but add in special needs parenting and life can get particularly difficult. It’s always nice to know that we are not alone.

  3. Katie Emanuel

    Thank you, Tina! My oldest of two (soon to be three) has autism and, though my husband works long hours, I can’t imagine juggling everything if he were deployed. You are an amazing mom!

  4. I love this post. I am the one with disabilities in my marriage, but I too can relate to the hardships of marriage when challenged by issues. I was already disabled when we got married, but still, you know, sometimes both partners dream that they or their parnter will change and make it all great. When in reality, we didn’t promise each other a rose garden, right?

  5. Katie Emanuel

    Astrid, yes! I think you put that so well. We dream that everything will work out just fine, that at some point it will all just get better, but the reality is we cannot have the dream without the journey, and sometimes we find the dream we had is not the one to chase after, after all. Thanks so much for reading and for sharing your experience. I love reading your perspective!

  6. You are so right–all these types of stressed put strains on marriages. There were a couple times when my special daughter was young, I wondered if my husband and I would make it. But I read an article that said the best gift you can give your children is a happy marriage. John and I worked even harder on ours. It’s been a wonderful 32 years and I’m hoping for another 32.

  7. Despite the fact that so many of us face serious challenges in our marriages and could really benefit from counseling, I’m always surprised to see that many people still feel there’s a stigma about it. I appreciate your openness and honesty, Katie, because to me, this is the essence of blogging: giving people a glimpse into your life to walk away with some bit of inspiration or hope. Beautifully done!

  8. Katie Emanuel

    Evanthia – yes! You are so right. There often is a stigma that comes with counseling when really, it should be just the opposite. I think many folks feel like they have to keep trudging through because there is a negative connotation associated with therapy, but it truly is such a healing and helpful process! And thank you for your encouragement. It can be tough to “put it out there,” but I think you put it so beautifully when you said “the essence of blogging is giving people a glimpse into your life to walk away with some bit of inspiration or hope.” I love that!

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