Christmastime last year was a very difficult one for me. My husband was working a low-end temporary job making $15 an hour – with no time off for the holidays (not even Thanksgiving or Christmas). We had no Veteran’s benefits coming in yet. Neither of us had healthcare. We were living in an 850 square … [Read more…]
So what I would like to do with this post is share what some special needs parents have to say in regard to dialogue and communication. What things they don’t like to hear, and what things they do! This isn’t meant to be a list of “no-no’s,” but rather a helpful tool in engaging conversation all the way around.
What if in building your walls of protection and barricading hearts you shut out the ones who just might actually want to stay? Community is a two way street. If you don’t let them in, you will never know the ones who truly love well.
So, what if you let down that wall and just let them in?
It all starts with finding common ground. Every mom has a similar experience, a similar set of responsibilities, joys, fears, hopes, and frustrations. Special needs moms have a few complications, sometimes a lot. But, every mom (every person) also has a distinctive journey with its own struggles.
Bridging the gap is going to take work on both sides. We have to acknowledge that this parenting thing is hard sometimes, whether you have a child with special needs or not. We need to be willing to look beyond ourselves, reach out to those who are struggling, accept friendship and help when it’s offered, and do everything in our power to bridge the gap so that no parent feels alone on this journey.
Before bridges can be built, walls must be torn down. And before walls can be torn down, walls must be understood.
The Story Behind the Series The story of this series begins five years ago. Kathryn, Sara, and I were young military wives who had met online. We were expecting our first babies – all boys. We commented on bumpdates and nursery pictures and even sent baby gifts to each other. One after another, we gave birth to our precious baby boys. … [Read more…]
Announcing 31 Days of Supporting the Special Needs Family – a blog series starting October 1, 2014 at beautifulinhistime.com. Providing hope and encouragement to special needs families and endeavoring to open dialogue, build bridges, and create community.
Friendships between single and married women: some practical advice for married women, single women, and churches.
I want to be a voice that starts a much-needed dialogue between people facing different circumstances and difficulties. I want to be a voice that helps create unlikely friendships through the power of empathy.
It was the summer of 2010 and I and my two best online friends, Kathryn and Sara were expecting our little boys. We had met on Christian Military Wives and were all due within a 2 month time-span. We shared pregnancy photos and excitement at the birth of our precious boys. We had a lot in common – … [Read more…]