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  1. Beautiful Aprille and will tell you that in my youth I seriously dated a Marine and we contemplated marriage. I couldn’t do it, because the Marines were his life and didn’t think I was strong enough to survive during deployments. This was actually during the Iraq War, when deployments were long and dangerous, so I was truly scared and truly didn’t want to be left alone. In the end, I decided it was the lifestyle for me and did meet my now husband a few months later. I give military wives such props, because you ladies are truly strong and can do anything. Sorry for the ramble a bit here, but my point is you (and other military wives) are true heroes and I truly admire your strength and convictions. It might have not been for me, but it never ceases to amaze me how truly brave women like you are.

    • The truth is that most of us started out “not strong enough.” In fact, I dated a Marine as well and he told me that he didn’t think I could do it either. Two year-long deployments later (plus a year of geographical separation before that for training and other reasons)… I have definitely proven him wrong…one day at a time.

      As far as being strong and able to do anything…there’s a quote that we like to use: “You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.” or something like that. It really is true. We love our men and will go through anything to support them. Our survival instincts kick in and being strong is just what we do because there’s no other options when you are totally alone!

      Thank you for your sweet comments. They really do mean a lot.

  2. Aprille, this was such a beautiful post. I can’t imagine how hard it must be living without your husband on a day-to-day basis. I know I’d miss mine terribly. My sister-in-law gave me The Surrendered Wife, and I have to admit that I haven’t finished it, but am now inspired to do so. You’re reading great things, and I know that makes it a little easier, but it’s still got to be extremely difficult. Kudos to you! And happy belated Veteran’s Day to you and your husband!

    • Thank you so much for your kind words. We spent three years apart (out of our first five), but thankfully, he’s been home (for good) for all of this year! We only have 4 months left in the military and are looking forward to a civilian lifestyle. It’s not been easy for sure, but I am stronger because of it, as is our marriage, in my opinion. My husband is struggling to recover from a lot of things that he’s been through, but with help and time, I think we will see healing there as well. Thanks for stopping by!

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