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  1. This is so good. I get really upset when parents who don’t have special needs kids tell me that our girls shouldn’t be taking medication. Would they have the same opinion if they faced the daily life that we face? It’s so easy to say “I would never” when you aren’t actually facing the situation.

    Thank you for the reminder that I need to just say “So what?” next time someone questions our choices. Our choices are working for our family and that is all that matters.

    • “Our choices are working for our family and that is all that matters.”

      Yup. That really is all that matters. Thanks for commenting, and I’m so glad that this decision is working for your family.

  2. Fantastic, Aprille! I love this!!! I think there has been a blogging phenomena that has convinced everyone that they are experts and they get to teach everyone else how it’s done. Really? On the flip side, I love reading about different perspectives when they are shared with humility and the attitude that this is what works for MY family as you stated.

    • The attitude of the writer helps a lot I think. I know you recently wrote a post about why your family makes a certain choice. But knowing you, your writing, your heart, I am sure it didn’t come as much from a place of defense or self-justification as much as sharing perhaps a different perspective. You also have great maturity in this area. Too often for myself, those lines are very blurry. What starts out as “let me just share a different perspective” can turn into delving into my own insecurities and trying to seek affirmation online.

      And yes, on the everyone thinking they are experts. Guilty.

  3. Colleen

    Very true. We each need to make our own decisions because we know best for our own families. As a mother of grown children with families of their own, I tell them the same thing. If they want advice, I will tell them what I think or suggest things to investigate. But ultimately the decisions are theirs to make. Why should I be personally offended because they don’t choose the same thing I would choose? I support whatever choices they make. Thanks for this blog, Aprille.

  4. Amanda H

    Hi, Aprille. I just found your blog and your perspectives are so refreshing. As a first-time mom to a 2 month old, I basically have to tune out most of the unsolicited advice given to me. I’m learning as most moms really do: trial and error. If something works for your family and your child is thriving (oh, and mom is happy), then so be it. It’s easy to have all the answers from the outside but every child is different. There truly is no one-size-fits-all in parenting. I deleted my Facebook 3 years ago and I haven’t regretted it a single day. It made me not like my friends and that was before I had a child! Being a parent is so difficult and we all have done things that we said we never would (ahem, napping with the baby on my chest). We need to be sources of support and encouragement to one another through this journey.

    P.S. I loved your post on deviating from Attachment Parenting. Bless you for trying! It sounded too exhausting to me from the get!

    • Thanks Amanda, for reading along with me on my journey. I’m glad you are happier off of Facebook. If I didn’t have so many close friends on there, I’d probably do the same. I view FB as a necessary evil – that much of the time I have to just filter out what I see and keep. my. mouth. shut.

      So glad you are learning these lessons now when your baby is so little. I think I was a bit of a slower learner in this department.

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