Motherhood,  Mothering Through Fatigue

“how can i tell i’m going to be a good mother?”

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Dear Google Searcher: You visited my site today after you searched “how can i tell i’m going to be a good mother?”

I don’t know who you are or anything about you. I don’t know if you are simply considering starting a family, if you are pregnant, or if you have a wee baby in your arms. Maybe you even have an older child.

Maybe you have been thrust into motherhood before you felt you were ready.

I can only guess as to the circumstances that brought you here today. But I hear fear in the text of your search…bewilderment, trepidation, maybe even insecurity. You want to know if you are cut out for this journey–if you “have what it takes.” You want the answer to the question, “Will I be enough for my children?”

I wish I could tell you that there’s one thing you need to be a good mom…that there’s some magic answer to your question. I wish I could give you a checklist that would tell you exactly what qualities you need to have to do this job.

Today someone came to my site because they searched "how can i tell i'm going to be a good mother." Here is my public response to her question: "Good" mothers are the ones who wonder "how can i tell i'm going to be a good mother?"

But it’s not that simple. Everyone has their own standards and definition of what a “good mother” is. Other moms may even try to bring you down because they don’t feel that you measure up to their standards of what a “good mother” is.

So I can’t tell you the answer to your question. But let me tell you a few things that I DO know.

“Good” mothers are the ones that worry about being good mothers.

“Good” mothers are the ones who wonder “how can i tell i’m going to be a good mother?”

The fact that you even care enough to ask this question tells me one thing: you care about your children (future, developing, or already born) enough to hope that they receive what they deserve.

I can’t promise you that you will be a perfect mother, or even a good mother. But I think, Dear One, that you already have the makings of great motherhood awakening in your heart, and that you do indeed have what it takes.

Dear Google Searcher: take heart and take hope. Don’t fear. Motherhood is the hardest path that you will ever take, but it’s worth every painful step. Step boldly and with confidence. I think that you are already “a good mother.” You just need to believe it. 

 

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