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  1. When real moms and toddler boys bake cookies | Beautiful In His Time

    […] this cookie issue is further complicated by food allergies. Mine, and his. I don’t eat grains. Unfortunately, most cookies have flour in them. The few […]

  2. What I eat, what I don’t, and how I do it… | Beautiful In His Time

    […] blogged here and there about my journey into more healthy eating, as I have been diagnosed with severe food allergies and am now on a grain-free diet. But I haven’t gone into a lot of detail about it, as […]

  3. Kristin Kraabel

    Girl I hear you on all this. But I was diagnosed with serious allergies to everything outside and 151 foods out of 153 foods when I was younger and went through all of that when I was a teenager. I’m working on losing some weight…but working 10 hour days and husband being gone and kids and living with parents and renting my house…uffda I need to buy a treadmill maybe. I eat GF always, but eliminate dairy often, have eaten raw diet, juiced (when I get a sick tummy) and vegan and vegetarian….so I say I’m a flexitarian I listen to my body 🙂

  4. sarahlmalone

    I really related to this. I thought being grain free and doing gaps were the answer, as both helped me a lot. You should check out unblindmymind.org because it has changed my life and taken away my chronic fatigue and anxiety. She talks about autism, because the diet was invented to help that, but it is actually related to many illnesses. I can so relate to wanting to keep a nice home and have it all together. Now I’m free to do that, and it makes me want to tell others. Sorry for babbling!

    • Thank you so much. Going grain free has helped me immensely, but after a year and a half, a combination of finances, resources, and energy caused me to leave behind some of that. I am still completely wheat and gluten free, and try to keep “gluten free” products to a minimum, but I’ve added rice and corn back into my diet. *sigh* I really can feel the difference, it’s just SO MUCH HARDER to consume fresh fruits and vegetables in the winter especially on a limited grocery budget! I will definitely check out that link. I truly believe that there are links between diet and autism, ADHD, chronic fatigue, sensory processing disorder, and fibromyalgia (and I believe that they are all related on some level). Ultimately, I want to take my entire family grain free, but again – energy levels, low finances, resources, it’s just impossible right now. So I try to count the little victories like the fact that my boys will eat gluten free mac and cheese. 🙂

  5. I can relate with your post. I have an autoimmune disorder (which it took years of Dr visits & feeling like I was a crazy hypochondriac before getting a diagnosis of) that makes it impossible for me to juggle a job & taking care of my family. I feel guilty because I see other (most) moms doing both & people
    don’t understand why I am home now that my kids are both in school full time.

    Because I stay home when I’m fatigued, people don’t see that side of me. Even when I explain that I have a disorder, I still look well enough to them to be working. They assume I’m lazy & that I could have nicer things if I just worked harder. But I work my tail off in the midst of palpable exhaustion.

    My entire existence is spent caring for every detail of my family’s life & yet I feel like I have a scarlet letter painted on my forehead. I’m tired of feeling ashamed for being who I am.

    • Stephanie…I just relate so much. We actually sent our son to preschool earlier this year and someone suggested that I could get a job now – and what they don’t realize is that we sent him as much for ME to get rest as we did for help him with socialization, behavior, and education. I ultimately wanted to homeschool but I am looking down the road wondering how it will even be possible and sometimes that makes me feel awfully lazy.

      Don’t be ashamed of who you are. You are definitely not alone.

      I hope you will take some time to browse around here. I’ve done a lot of writing on the topic of mothering tired, and you can read some of my top posts on that subject here: http://beautifulinhistime.com/mothering-through-fatigue/

  6. Barbara W.

    Thank you for sharing your story. I have many symptoms similar to yours, and life — especially motherhood — is a constant battle. Your story validates my struggles and gives me hope that there might be a reason for the pain/fatigue even if the tests for celiac, etc come back negative. Truthfully, I constantly suffer from really bad allergies, but I’ve never been tested for what is causing the symptoms. No matter what the tests say, I have another avenue to explore. So again, thank you for putting your story out there.

    • I’m glad it helped. Food allergies can be debilitating. I wrote this post four years ago and am still having a lot of digestive issues so will be seeing a GI doctor in the near future. It sucks. 🙁

  7. Tammy

    I know what you mean about not having to feel like you’re just lazy or selfish and can’t keep up with “normal” people. I was finally diagnosed with Narcolepsy With Cataplexy in 2013 after fifteen years of falling asleep at the drop of a hat, not being able to sleep at night, forgetting words, and starting to dream before I was completely unconscious or waking to find myself trapped in my head unable to move a single muscle, even to open my eyes. I had to be careful not to laugh too hard because my knees, abs, and arms would “disappear” and I would sink to the floor like an unprofessional twit. When I was finally diagnosed, I felt so vindicated: I’m not lazy, I’m not spacey; my brain just has a broken regulator and thinks I need some REM while I’m sitting at my desk! I figured out how much of what medicine I needed each day to wake me up and combat “breakthrough sleepiness”, and I was normal! Yippee….great….Then we wanted to get pregnant. Goodbye wake up medicine, it was nice knowing you. I hibernated for the first four months of pregnancy; if I was awake, I was sitting very still and nibbling on crackers and ginger ale to keep from tossing my cookies. In my 3rd trimester I had convulsions from pre-eclampsia and was forbidden to drive for six months. (Hello, house I have been incarcerated in for the entire winter; I can’t bear to look at your walls in the light of day anymore xD) Now my daughter is eight months old and it’s hello medications, my old friends. But they aren’t working the same; one isn’t waking me up and the backup makes me so grouchy I’d rather stay home and not take it than be able to drive safely but scream at my daughter and snarl at my husband. I got here from a random “more like this” pin I was looking at, but I seriously need these posts! God sent me a blessing by showing me this blog!

    • I’m so glad you found my blog. Your challenges sound so uniquely hard and I wish I knew how to make it better for you. Glad you have found what works for you!

  8. Rose

    Thank you so much for posting this! I know this is kind of an old post, but I was Googling “tired mom who has no time for making friends” and I found this. I can relate. I’ve been dealing with spine issues, scoliosis and lordosis. It weighs me down and makes me tired. I have a 2 year old son, who also got diagnosed with mild Autism and I’m a SAHM. I’m worn out, I wish I could do as much as other moms can do. My husband and family/other people just don’t get my back issues, they think I’m exaggerating and am just being lazy and making excuses. I’m 34, but I look like I’m in high school, so people can’t imagine how I really feel. I feel like an 80 year old at times. I also had some health issues like urinary retention after giving birth and had my gall bladder removed in April. I’m having teeth issues too. I’ve gone downhill after having my son. I deal with depression and anxiety. My marriage has been rough, and dealing with my controlling parents has not been easy. The more stress there is, the worse it is. Believe me I wish I could do more than I really can. I’ve have been praying a lot and keeping my faith during these rough times. Despite how hard things are, I’m so thankful for my son. So thanks so much for posting this, I really needed to read this! God Bless You!

    • Rose, thank you so much for your comment. I’ve talked with many other special needs parents, and this life is SO trying, for parents with no limitations themselves. When you have your own things you are dealing with…WOW it’s like 3 times harder! I hope you will check out our support group for special needs parents: facebook.com/specialneedssurivival (page) and facebook.com/groups/specialnneedssurvival (group). I post encouragement there both places throughout the week! <3

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