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  1. As the mother of an 18yo (with moderate cerebral palsy) and a 20yo, looking back to think of the “easiest” parenting year is a little easier only because there are more to choose from. But, it’s difficult to put each year on an “easy to hard” scale because they each had unique challenges that the other years didn’t have anything to do with. Maybe instead of “easiest” we should be thinking about the most “rewarding”. Looking back, I would venture to guess they all rank high on that scale. 🙂

  2. My heart goes out to you – especially the last line – It will probably never be easy. But it will always be worth it. I hope it does get easier. My children were as easy as pie — and I am not saying that to be cold or uncaring. I am a health coach and deal with these kind of situations on a regular basis. If you would like to email me privately, we can talk about it. I also have an adopted, special needs son so I know there are solutions out there. I would love to help you.

    Carol @ Battered Hope

    • I appreciate it Carol. We have been seeking professional opinions here to make sure we are doing everything we can for him as his parents. He does not officially have any diagnosable “special needs,” but he’s definitely a handful!

  3. Found your blog on google and it has really spoken to my heart.
    Myself: I have five children, and one of them has been a real difficult one to parent. Another one is super energetic and highly social to the point of being exhausting. Another one is very sensitive to everything around them…and on & on it goes! They are really sweet though, we’ve just had our share of bumps in the road.
    I really am thankful for each & every one of them. I really do LOVE them. Immensely. But there are days that it is challenging for us. I find a lot of support from close friends, family & the Lord.
    Have you ever read “The Strong-Willed Child” by Dr. James Dobson? That helped me to understand the natural born leader & their personality. Perhaps that is what your son is.
    But of course no book or theory will have all the answer for us! It will be a day by day walking it out.
    Thanks though for being so open with us.
    Feel free to visit my blog at http://www.parentingandhomeschoolinginfaith.com
    Your newest follower; hope to stay in touch 🙂

    • Rachel, sorry for taking so long to respond! Thank you for your sweet comment. It sounds like you truly have your hands full, but you are still shining through it all! I haven’t read the book but I have heard it recommended many many times! I find it hard to find time to read! 🙂

      Thanks for following and subscribing!

  4. Jennifer

    Your story was just what I needed tonight. A reminder that I am not alone. My fighter is 4 and a middle child with an ADHD diagnosis. And it is hard. Everyday is hard. But it is also worth it.

  5. Karly Darling

    I normally do not ever read blogs. But yours captured me. I am a mom of two. I was separated and divorced from my ex-husband, but am now very happily married to an amazing Christian man. My ex and I had two extra special boys together, who are now 13 and 9. They both have Down Syndrome. My 13 year old is our fighter. He has been ever since I was pregnant with him and up to this present day. My, now, husband and I sometimes know what to do but the other half of the sometimes, we are often frustrated and do not know what to do, as the battles with him are everyday.
    I feel you are on to something that we need to take into account: he is a fighter. But perhaps, and most likely, is not a bad thing. We know and love the Lord with all our hearts and seek Him everyday with these battles. These things and times are definitely not easy. Focus on the good, I have heard Father whisper in my ear. Focus, I must do. Focus on the Lord and the sweet taste of victory of the end battle when he does finally get it. And to think, I have ocassionally thought, perhaps the struggles are more for the parent(s) than the child. ???

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