1. Leeann

    Excellent post. As a well seasoned Mom of three who are now 19, 15 and 12, I applaud you on learning to recognize your child instead of your plan so early on. I wish I had done the same.

    I wish you luck on your journey with your son. My third child was a real challenge and I completely had to rewrite our parenting game plan. I wasn’t sure I would survive his childhood and I cried. A lot. Now he is 12 and a half and just a wonderful, wonderful child. He is intense and active but he also has a HUGE sensitive heart with “all the feels.” He didn’t know how to process it when he was young but now that he can, let me just tell you that it is a beautiful and breathtaking thing to witness. The constant activity and impulsiveness, it gets better. Promise.

    • Thank you so much, Leeann. I keep trying to keep that image in my head of the older child, the teen, the adult – the one who has found a way to make the struggles of today his strengths tomorrow. But far too often it gets lost in the challenge of today. I truly believe that it can and will get better, hard to remember on the hard days though.

  2. sarah atchison

    i’m hearing myself in your words here. i’m sending trey to school this year after homeschooling for 4 and having to admit that “i am not enough for him.” and while he also is very smart and above average intelligence (we’ve already skipped a grade and are now struggling with the decision of whether to continue that way in school or to hold him back to his age-appropriate grade with his peers), he very much struggles with impulse control and stress and frustration and emotions, as if he were stuck in the toddler years.
    thanks for the reminder that social skills are just as important as the academic stuff.

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