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  1. Amanda Kendall

    Thank you so much for this. I shared it with my hubby and it started a great conversation about what has been going on in our home recently. Thank you for giving us a way to start discussing OUR “1%”.

  2. Ruth

    I have four kiddos. 7yr old, 4, 2, and 6 month old. It takes great effort and a whole lot of logistic planning for me to leave the house on my own. My husband is in the Marine Corp and works a crazy amount of hours. My oldest has Aspergers, and I homeschool her. I don’t think I have gotten more than 3 or 4 hours of interrupted sleep in 7years! I surely thought I should be dead or in a insane asylum. Somehow I still get up every morning (barely), I still mother my children (I basically just keep them alive). All this to say, that the “pennies” are what are barely holding us together. I have been giving only 1% for a long time. How long do you think a marriage can last on this arrangement? How about the quality of life for the kids when mom is not giving 100%? The mommy guilt overwhelms me.
    I can’t get enough of your blog. Your honesty and openness are a blessing to me right now. Thank you.

    • “How long do you think a marriage can last on this arrangement?”

      With pennies, probably not for long. BUT… I think if you scatter some nickels, dimes, quarters, and dollars in there along with the pennies, somehow, it keeps going. Those extra special things – the occassional date night, a night away every few years, something you know he really likes in the bedroom every once in a blue moon, and just the day-in day-out fight to keep things going.

      I hope you stick around here. Check out my marriage and my motherhood archives (at the top) as well as my Mothering Through Fatigue
      series. I think you will be encouraaged! I’ve been running on empty for at least 5 years now but finding beauty in it all!

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