Recovering Perfectionist
I could name this blog category many things. Over the last year, it has become about far more than just recovering from perfectionism, although that's still a huge aspect. These posts also chronicle my journey away from legalism, self-guilt, self-doubt, lack of boundaries, and hardcore "fundamental" Christianity. I'm a work in progress and recovery has not been easy.
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Safety in the comfortable cocoon of fundamentalism
Leaving behind legalism is one of the most terrifying things I've ever done. And for a long time, I just couldn't do it.
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when you and your husband are in different spiritual places
For those times when you are out-of-sync spiritually with your spouse.
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Church Attendance: on being “in your place” in church
The verse that is probably used the most to stress "faithful church attendance" is simply a reminder that we need to be getting together with other believers.
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What to do when your church isn’t meeting your needs
I'm asking you to focus less on the problem and consider the possibility you could in fact be part of the solution.
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forget where you “should be” and “give God your ugly”
But sometimes, the first step of surrender is admitting to God that you aren't ready to surrender.
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What motherhood taught me about legalistic Christianity
Being the perfect mom became my new legalism.
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You may think the sky above is falling – but can you hear Jesus calling?
I know you are scared, but I won't let you go. You aren't "too far gone" for me. I'm still here. I haven't gone anywhere. And I'm still loving you, holding you. I'm…
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Cheating on my church: God is bigger than our denominational boxes
But that very brief time that I spent at that church didn't pull me down. In contrast, it really opened my eyes to a lot of things: I realized that the body of…
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Disconnect: when God just doesn’t seem relevant
Life just got a whole lot bigger and scarier. But the God I knew was still small and stuck in the box I created for him with my incomplete understanding of his grace.
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Modesty: a beautiful picture of God’s grace
But now, Christianity still so often promotes a system of modesty that is based in shame. We feebly and fearfully adopt "standards" and try to cover up our sin, our shame, with our…
