Recovering Perfectionist
I could name this blog category many things. Over the last year, it has become about far more than just recovering from perfectionism, although that's still a huge aspect. These posts also chronicle my journey away from legalism, self-guilt, self-doubt, lack of boundaries, and hardcore "fundamental" Christianity. I'm a work in progress and recovery has not been easy.
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Plan A, 2.0
It was confusing...still believing in the ideal of being a "good Baptist girl" who followed her perfect husband into "full-time Christian service," yet realizing that not only was it probably never going to…
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“I will keep believing that God still has a plan”
Healing didn't happen overnight, and there were so many moments - moments like the summer of 2006 - that were pauses on the journey where I simply held onto faith in God's plan.
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finding healing and freedom in secular music
What happened that evening in our home opened up a whole new world for me. I spent hours downloading music, checking out CDs from the library, and just laying in bed listening to…
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perfection is not possible
What my first year of college taught me is that perfection - whether in your spiritual life or academic - is not possible, no matter how hard you try. That's why we need…
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What do Brad Pitt, Josh Groban, and Sleepless in Seattle have in common?
Growing up without a TV, never going to the movies, being terrified (literally) of rock music, and only having friends at my church - I lived in a clean, sterile little bubble of…
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when you’ve been hurt by legalism or the church, hold onto faith
But I urge you, Christian who has been hurt by legalism: Don't give up on God. Hold onto faith.
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Failed courtship: when you trust and obey but your heart still gets broken
Have you ever had your heart broken by a relationship gone wrong or a dream unfulfilled? Have you ever found yourself trying to find the answers to the blame game? Have you ever…
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hiding in shame, packing up my dreams
I was standing in an empty dormitory room, the one right across from mine. It had been empty for the entire semester, but now it was where I was hiding all of my…
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Standing Under the Broken Heart: How Shaming Leads to Legalism
A war had been started within my soul. Part of me that believed that their opinion of me was also God’s opinion: that I really was a rebellious person if I didn’t follow…
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what is “legalism”?
After some prayerful consideration of the objective and direction of this series, I feel that it is necessary to share what I mean when I use the term "legalism." When I was living…
