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  1. Amie

    I am so glad I found this post. I have 2 step kids ages 10 and 12 and a toddler who is 19 months (and throws tantrums all day regularly) and I babysit my neice who is 6 months old and screams all day long. My husband rarely helps me. It’s like pulling teeth to get him to help me. I do the cooking, cleaning, laundry, baths, brush teeth etc. I’m so exhausted and I have no time to do things with my son like take him to the park or anything. I let him watch TV and do whatever I can to keep him happy and keep my neice asleep. I don’t sleep at night and haven’t for a very long time. I have fibromyalgia and I hurt all day but get no help. Reading this post made me feel so much better. Thank you.

  2. ingrid

    This made me cry. It’s mothers day and I am a mum of three little ones. We have just moved from interstate, Mt husband is away for work and I have no mum (she has passed) to celebrate with. My beautiful babies picked out their little presents to give to me, helped make pancakes and made me a cup of tea. All not which involved so much cleaning up but warmed my heart so much. I have finally got them to bed (they are 5,2 & 8 months) and felt relieved they had gone to bed then got the guilt feeling like my children are amazing despite me rather than because of me but your post gave me a moment to just feel like maybe I’m not a bad mum and maybe I’m allowed to be exhausted and snappy sometimes. Maybe I don’t always need to feel like I’m failing them because the fact that I ask these questions and care enough me and I’m still doing OK. And maybe one day when I’m not so tired the day to day things will feel easier. I wouldn’t give my little miracles back for the world and I know I’m one very lucky mum.

    • I think it’s very normal to feel relief at bed time. I know I do at most nights. Check on them when they are sleeping and your heart will melt but man…sometimes that hour before bed is so touch and it’s so nice to get a minute to breathe! It sounds like you are a great mom.

  3. angel lamb

    Reaching my wit’s end late last night, I had a glimmer of hope that maybe just going to sleep would get me out of it and I could start fresh in the morning forgetting all about my sudden moodiness. My morning was alright, but it all came back even worse this afternoon during our 5 year olds art lesson. Coupled with my acne outbreak, I was forced to look up “moody tired acne” in a google search. This was my final solution after crying to several read aloud videos online that our 5, 4 and 2 year old fought over the ENTIRE time. I’m known for my sensitive nature, but this is ridiculous…maybe there’s something wrong with me. My hormones have never been regular, so I never know when it’s going to strike. Your blog caught my attention. I read it and I got to “Good moms are the moms that worry about being good moms”. Oh, I broke down and had to cry. I needed to hear your stories. Thank you soo much! I think some Matthew will help as well 🙂

    • Sounds like you are really really stressed. Hope you can find some time to take some deep breaths, and maybe search for “guided relaxation” videos on youtube!

  4. ciara

    Thank You.
    I Have a two and a half year old and a 7 month old work full time and im 5 months pregnant did i mention im planning my wedding for 9 months time ….and being 21 is not easy but definitley not boring. good to know im not the only one! everyone else seem to make it look easy and they just everything together !

  5. I love this so much!! Thank you for sharing your feelings on this and for encouraging and uplifting those of us who are going through the same thing. It feels good to know I’m not alone in the sleep deprivation boat. It seems all my friends with babies get to sleep through the night and have bounds of energy and always look cute and work out and have normal lives and it makes me feel a bit better about myself each time I hear I’m not the only one that is in survival mode right now.

  6. Leaha

    Thank you for this!! I am a mom to three soon to be four kids under the age of four. There have been SO many days I just want to pack it in and throw in the towel. But at the end of the day and most days after much tears and heart aches. I keep holding on to the fact that it will all eventually pass and make way for new challenges! It is ALWAYS such a relief to know I am not the only one who snaps, yells, cries, hides in corners to get small cat naps while the kids watch “one more” episode of whatever, it’s nice to know I am not alone in the struggling. So thank you for your words and encouragement!! Good moms-great moms worry about being great moms! Beautiful ❤️❤️

  7. Stacie

    Single mom of three. Recently discharged from my job due to budget cuts. So tired emotionally and physically all the time. I just want to crawl in a hole.

  8. Gemma

    Thanks for this. I’m so tired at the moment. It made me feel more normal and a bit relieved. My LO is 8 months and he’s amazing but I miss sleeping and lie ins!

    From one tired mummy to another. 🙂

  9. Catherine

    Thankyou this made me cry because I can relate to pretty much every word. I have a two year old and a four month. I’m feeling exhausted but this made me feel a little better. X

  10. Amanda

    I know you have a lot of comment but one I had to write one too.
    Reading this made me feel like I was reading a post I could have written about myself.
    I honestly thought I was the only Mom that got tired. I take my kids to soccer and gymnastics and I see these Moms there all perky and ready for the day and I think wow what have I gotten into. It’s 9 am, I’ve been up for 4 hours already. It was hard enough to get the kids to cooperate and get in the car so we could be here on time. Now I’m physically exhausted and I have to sit here for an hour when I can barely keep my eyes open. Some days are better than others but I recently found out I have hypothyroidism which explains being tired. But now trying to worry about a diet change, losing weight, my mom living with us, a husband who works all day and is at school at night and sports for the kids all the while fitting in healthy meals and snacks…..yeah I’m tired lol.so reading your post made me feel awesome! I’ll take some time and read your other posts too!! Great writing. You are an amazing Mom!!!!!

    • It sounds like you are doing a lot of good things to help with your fatigue and be the best mom you can. Keep it up, take it one day at a time, and let go of the rest!

  11. Melanie

    Wow! thank you. That is exactly what I needed. Being pregnant with number 4 while I have to care for a 5, 2 and 1 year old all day cause it’s summer break. And my last two still wake up at night ( of course at different time haha) I feel like I’m at the end of my rope. But Thanks to you I felt understood and i got the push I needed to keep going in believing that I am a good mother! And so are you!

    Once again thank you for sharing this post

    Sending you many blessing

    • Oh my – 4 under 5. What a full plate you have! My mom had 4 in 6 and what you are dealing with reminds me much of the stories she tells. It sounds like you are doing great! Hope you survive the rest of your summer break!

  12. Shannon

    -_- im bfeeding babys 6 months old and sleeps 9.30 wakes at 2 then at 5 then at 7 then at 9 and won’t go back to sleep untill 12 sometimes I’m so tierd from being up all night I go to bed with her at 12 this means I don’t wake untill like one. I feel like such a bad mum because what person wakes at 1pm that’s just “lazy” I feel lazy but I can’t function. That is her rutine if shes doing well! But at the minute every single time I put her to sleep and get up to go down stairs the crying starts. Every time I put her in her cot she cries. Like shes in so much pain. My bed seems to take all the pain away but I can’t sleep in a bed with a partner and a baby. He dosnt help settle her at night her just expects me to get up and feed her to sleep. I’m so tierd. Shes watching TV now atm and I hate myself for it ! But I cannot function. On top of all this regardless how tierd I am at night even if she does sleep, I can’t. I feel like typing “please help me!!!” “Please come babysit for an hour” but its useless. Nobody understands here. And everyone works, I don’t drive and no local daycare where I live. No money to pay for it. I’m counting the minutes untill she gets tierd again so I can get some sleep. I hope I can sleep !

    • It sounds like she just has days and nights a bit mixed up. Sleep when you can. The older she gets the more regulated her schedule will become. It’s very hard to schedule first baby’s on a routine, especially when you have no help.

  13. Britney

    I found this while searching through Pinterest. I started crying half way through. Thank you so much for this. Thank you so much for caring enough about other mothers out there to write this. This really made me feel so much better.

  14. Holly

    The tears are rolling down my cheeks right now as I desperately needed these words of encouragement tonight. I am an exhausted mother of a brilliant and beautiful 2 year old boy who has slept through the night fewer times than the fingers that number my hands and has recently taken to waking up at about 5am each morning. I work full time and try so hard to be a “good mother” and just today freaked out on my husband due to exhaustion and the need for some sympathy in my current plight. Your words spoke so profoundly and accurately to where my heart currently is. Thank you for sharing & thank you for the much needed affirmation. God bless you and your family!

  15. Amy

    Thank you I’m a stay a home with 6 month old that doesn’t sleep and no help. Your kind words are just what I needed god place just at the right time for these moments.

    God bless we need more people like you.

  16. Megan

    Thank you for writing this. I’m a newly divorced former military spouse solo parenting a 2 and a 4 year old. I felt like a panic stricken, patience limited, gremlin all day. I was searching for advice and this post calmed me immensely. So glad I stumbled upon your honesty. This really helped me get a grip.

  17. Anonymous

    Thank you! I needed this. I’m 29 weeks pregnant with twins and I also have a 2 and a half year old. I’m so exhausted it’s such a lonely feeling. All I want to do is play with her and be more patient. I’m really looking forward to feeling more energetic again x

  18. Kristy

    I’m a Google searcher! Single mom of a 2 year old boy and I work full-time. My son sleeps all night, but I’m still so exhausted constantly! I can really relate to the guilt and feeling like a bad mom for raising my voice to my son, using the tv as a babysitter, and some other things. Thanks for the post.

  19. avani

    Very motivating.. m a mother of one year old.. n m tired.. when I read this I got tears in my eyes.. thought someone understands.. thankyou so much..

  20. Gemma

    Thank you for this! It is reassuring that other people are going through the same thing and I’m not slowly going insane! Some days I struggle to string a sentence together as my brain just can’t cope with it all! I have a 3 year old and 13 month old and it does seem to be getting easier, as the youngest one grows. He’s starting to sleep a bit better now so hopefully I’ll be able to function more.
    Thank you and good luck everyone!

  21. Nikole

    I really needed this tonight. I have a very sick baby with hand foot and mouth and I am so worn out and exhausted. Every word in this sounded like my own words coming out of my own mouth. I’m bawling, haha I just SO needed this tonight….

  22. Rachy

    This is perfect, just what i needed to hear. I have a 4 year old (turned 4 10 days ago) and 7 week old identical twin boys. It’s tough, very tough. But yes, I am remembering from my first that each phase will pass!

  23. Erica

    Oh my God… Thank you for writing this. My daughter is the light of my life and I love her so much. I feel like sometimes being a single mother I cant give her all the time ahe needs. I work 4 days a week and im told by some when all i want to do is go to dinner with my boyfriend or a movie even ( at times not even getting to do it) shes with babysitters too much… And i have no help from parents or any family, just occassionally my ex. I primarily work when she goes to her dads for her visits with him. I find myself still not getting to sleep at all because theres so much to do that i cant get done while shes gone and i have two days to do it all while working the bulk of my hours at work during that time. I love being a mother but i have felt so guilty about her waking up at 7 or 8 in the morning and i give her a juice bottle and lay in her bed with her while she plays in her room or watches tinkerbell on my ipad. This post made me cry because finally someone knows what im going through, instance by instance. I breastfed too and that was tiring but with each passing phase ive felt a different sort of tired. I guess what it comes down to is the fact that if I wasnt doing all that I could, i really wouldn’t be tired. Thank you for this… You’ve helped me calm my worries by volumes.

  24. Megan

    I wanted to say thank you for taking the time to write this. I am sitting here in bed as I have just put my 2 and 3 year olds down to sleep. I am currently pregnant with my third and I am so completely exhausted. We are in the middle of a move and have temporarily moved into my parent’s home (they moved into their cabin for us) and my husband and I are sharing the master bedroom with my
    Toddlers. We are also in the middle of buying my husband’s company and the stress level has reached its max. I have experienced everything that you wrote here and it was such a relief to sit here and cry and realize that it’s okay and I’m not alone. Thank you again for taking the time to share this.

    • Oh my, it does sound like you have SO much on your shoulders. Pregnancy hormones can make everything feel worse, too! I hope you can find a quiet corner to take 10 minutes to yourself today! <3

  25. jenn

    I wish I could help you all out 🙁
    really. I hear you. I have been trying to have a baby and had been told over and over about the amount of work it is. I know how much work it is. I only wanted the chance. But still I stopped trying because I am single and older and I was so worried about the energy. I also have no family and support. So after miscarrying a few times, I gave up. My heart is broken and I sometimes don’t know how to go on. But I won’t be one of the childless women that doesn’t feel for you though. People say stupid things to women with children and women without children. We have to support each other. You are blessed yes but I wish you could be blessed and also get some sleep. Best wishes

  26. Felicia

    Hi just came across this post/blog as I typed into google that it’s tiring being a mother. My first and only son of 17 months old is sick and I am exhausted, I barely get any sleep, I barely shower anymore, and he is rocked to bed every night by 8(IF he goes down at 8) I’ll rock him for Almaty if not an hour some nights and it can be SO exhausting not so but is! I am thankful I read your post ecause I to feel so guilty t son watches so much tv it’s bin so cold out and the same routine can get very boring sometimes…I do miss the makeup an looking good but there’s no other feeling greater then being a mom and know my little guy is safe,cleaned at night with a bath, eaten and feeling healthy. It’s exhaustin though!! You just don’t get what it’s like until you actually have a child; well now I know! I thank you for this post, ALOT!! I don’t get to hear I’m a good mother a lot and it’s nice to know I’m not the only one or alone in this journey of motherhood either! It really is true, I am not the only one..Thank-you for this it really made me remind myself that I am doing what I can and am fighting a good fight…sleep was unwishfully taken for granted and I now wish for sleep. That day will come though, like you said.. After a few years, my son and I will both sleep through the night and wake up feeling refreshed and I’ll always be thankful of the time I took now to teach him to do so❤️ Thank you thank you thank you
    I really needed this

  27. Amy

    This is awesome. Thank you. The amount of times in a day where I worry that I am being a bad mother is ridiculous, and it helps so much to read this and know that I am not. My own mother has been gone for almost 12 years now, but I don’t remember the days I watched TV because she was tired, or the days I ate junk food because she was too tired to cook, or the days she didn’t do laundry. But I do remember her hugs, and how comforting she was, and how she always knew just the right thing to say to make me feel better. It’s nice to be reminded that our job to nurture and love is so much more important than anything else.

    • My condolences for the loss of your mom. I know that, even after that much time, that’s a gap no one else can fill. But, it does offer us perspective, doesn’t it? Remembering what is most important! Thanks for the encouragement, as right now my 5 year old is watching TV and my baby is trying to cry himself down for a nap while I take a 2 second break from the crazy to respond to month old blog comments. Thank you so much for your comment, Amy.

  28. Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m not a mom but I often worry I wouldn’t be ready to be a mom because I get so tired at work. This is so encouraging and I hope I remember it one day.

  29. Anonymous

    Thank you so much! This post brought me to tears, exactly what I needed to hear. I feel so much less alone now! Thank you thank you!

  30. Angela

    I am very sick right now with an active 3 year old. This article really helps. Today has been the hardest so far. I have tried movies, tv, toys, etc. but all he wants is mommy to be up doing things like I usually am. As I lay on the sofa, he pulls my blanket off and yells, “Get up mommy!” It takes all the strength I can muster just to make him food, keep his sippy cup full, change him, bathe him. I have no one where I live except for an ex husband. No friends or family to call. It’s so beautiful out today and he wants to go to the park, as we usually do on the weekend. I took him outside onto our small apartment patio to play with his bubble machine, but it’s still not enough for him.
    He is usually active, but I have taught and worked with him and he’s usually an angel. I don’t know why he is acting so hostile towards me. Help!

    • Three year old boys are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO challenging. Doubly so when you are sick or tired. Hang in there. It DOES get better. Kind of. 🙂

  31. Ruth

    When I’m having a really bad day and I don’t think God is listening to my screams. I come to google. I search and search for someone that has walked this road before.
    Today, I found your blog. All I can say is thank you. Thank you so much for sharing what I’m sure many hide behind closed doors. I know I do. I’m broken, extremely tired. Wondering if a bad mother is better than no mother at all. I will keep at it, one day at a time. Until I can’t anymore.

  32. […] I want them to feel loved and secured whenever they are with me, and I want to enjoy them as much as I can. But there are so many responsibilities that need to be tended to around the house that I guess I need to find a balance. I searched for “when you are too tired” on Pinterest today and I came across these two wonderful posts, here and here. […]

  33. U couldnt have worded everything any better i think im goung crazy i have a 2 month old an 2 year old its so rough ive been so manic low latley an so drained i even screamed at my son an just started crying hes 2 thank u for ur words

  34. Hue

    I am a mom of a 2 year old and a 2 month old daughter and I am exhausted. It’s 3:14 am. I am crying a lot when search for this post.
    Thank you for your words make me feel better. I love my 2 daughters so much but feel like I need 1 more head and 2 more hands to take care of them. The guilt of cannot be a good mom chasing me every day. Too much work, too much worry, too much angry, making me is not me anymore. Children are innocent, so every time I yell at them, I feel really bad after all and wish I can turn back time to fix it.
    I really happy for those moms who have support from their mom or in-law. I wish I could have my mom stay with me to give me some support to raising my children.
    I am so exhausted. I am not me anymore.
    I feel lonely and poor. I am counting every day for it to go by so my daughters will grow up and the tired will turn to another type which is not too much.
    I search for this post in order to look for support and you give me that.
    Thanks so much for being strong to write this post to encourage moms like me who almost experience all things like you.
    I will stay strong for my daughters, will try my best to raise them to be good people.
    I know eventually they will grow up and I will look back to miss those time.
    I know I have to look at my daughters’ eyes to know that they are talking to me that “mommy, I am still young to think that I am not behave so don’t be angry, don’t yell, but be patient with me, teach me, love me and I’ll be good one some day. I love you but not the way you like it to be. I didn’t mean to make you tired but that is the way it is, I couldn’t change anything. So please stay strong with me, every moment will not be the same, it will pass by and you will miss it”.
    I will stay strong with my daughters and thanks again for this support.

  35. It’s 9:23 am on Thursday and my son (24 mo old) woke today at 7 am, i took him out of his crib and let him play in his room while I came back to my bed to hopefully get some more sleep, I’m exhausted lately and your post just reassured me I AM A GOOD MOTHER and its motivated me to get out of bed to get our day started. thank you for writing this, you are appreciated.

    • Thank you, Jessica, for commenting – and I apologize for my late reply. I think it’s great that you gave your son some independent playtime. Our kids need that, far more than we realize, I think.

  36. Danielle

    This was so comforting. I can’t even describe how confusing having a toddler has been. I’m always worrying about if I’m doing or saying the right things. I relate to this post so much. Thank you for writing this. I’m laying here right now, so relieved that my husband is home to take over. And now I don’t feel so bad about bing exhausted. Thank you for this.

    • Danielle, is this your first baby? I can attest to that first baby being confusing at just about ANY stage. First-time motherhood is just plain HARD. But it does get easier. Never feel bad for being exhausted. This is one of the most demanding jobs in the world, and the toddler years are incredibly demanding, especially physically. Do what you can to take care of yourself. Here are some tips:
      http://beautifulinhistime.com/2013/04/23/how-to-be-a-better-mom-while-being-exhausted/

      • Danielle

        Yes! She’ 2 years old. This is my first and I’m only 21! Thank you so much for the link! I have been a lot better since reading your article. I don’t beat myself up so much when I’m having an off day. I came back to read your article over again because today is one of those days. I’m hangin in there 🙂

  37. Rebecca

    I sat here reading this while hiding in my bathroom while my 8 month old son plays with his toys in the hallway. I am sobbing cause I’m so tired and feel so guilty all the time. My son is everything to me and he has just been waking every hour and I’m so sleep deprived. I really needed this so thank you
    Definitely hit home

  38. Anonymous

    Thank you for this article.I really needed it today.I needed to feel like I am still a good mom on days like today when TV is the only answer because I am so tired that the thought of taking even just a shower makes me wabt to pass out lol Oh sleep how I miss you!

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