1. Kristin K (@kristin0530)

    I totally get where you are coming from. Having two daughters who we brough to the movie we had the opportunity to talk about being different, what each set of skills/talents we are given or cultivate as we get older. That sometimes people won’t understand what we chose to do or look like but that as long as we continue to love and follow our savior it doesn’t matter. We don’t need to hide who we are, but to celebrate us. We are each created special, unique and to be able to celebrate that from the beginning means that we don’t end up angry and hurt as an adult. We talked about how her parents thought they were doing the best because they didn’t understand her and how that can hurt. That talking about that hurt could have helped instead of hiding it. We also discussed the love between two sisters, that no matter what happens in life or what comes between sisters they are sisters and their hearts are tied together. That talking to each other and discussing differences can help us understand our sister. I may have cried, but like I said I have two daughters who I pray everyday will have a strong bond through the thick and thin, who will stand up for each other and fight together, who will celebrate each others differences and who will encourage each other to strive to be who God created them to be.

  2. I liked the movie overall, but felt uneasy about some parts of it. Luckily my kids didn’t let it soak into their hearts. Parenting is not easy! Thanks for this assessment. I get what you are saying because I am a recovering good girl too.

  3. I seriously doubt this will be one of your least popular posts of all time. You are saying something pseudo-controversial about a cultural phenomenon!
    The problem is taking the song out of context. Anything taken out of context is harmful. I don’t have to tell you the danger of taking scripture out of context of God’s full plan and message.
    “Let it Go” is basically a kid friendly sexual awakening. But, the story doesn’t end there. In Elsa’s next song, she learns the consequences of living without abandon and sings “I’m such a fool–I can’t be free.”
    Contrast this with the song “Love is an Open Door” sung by Anna. Taken out of context, you get the opposite skewed view of womanhood.
    By the end of the movie, it’s true love–the only time, I’d argue, Disney gets true love right–that corrects both sisters’ views. Anna learns that love is an action, not a feeling. Elsa learns that love is being selfless, not selfish.

    As far as Disney movies go, I don’t think there’s one that has something better to say about love and what it means to be feminine than Frozen.

    • That should be “semi-controversial,” not “pseudo.” I tried to edit it, but it wouldn’t let me. Didn’t mean to be offensive! My brain isn’t firing on all its cylinders this morning.

    • CM

      Wifosaurus’s comment really resonates with my own story. I was in my mid twenties when I saw Frozen for the first time. I too feel the tension Aprille is expressing, especially when little girls bellow the song and you know they have no idea the context. So I totally get it!

      However, Frozen will always have a very special place in my heart. I saw it after it was released on DVD sitting in a quiet living room. The movie had me in tears as I saw 1. my own tension with my close aged sister and 2. the desperate pain of the concealing, don’t feeling, don’t let them know that went on in my own life for so many years trying to be a good, put together girl. But by the time I watched Frozen, “Now they know.” Depression had set in, my heart had been broken, and my good girl put together life was gone. When the sacrificial scene at the end happened, my heart broke open and the Lord showed me something new about His gospel love that I had never seen before. I saw Him step in to save me, the one who didn’t deserve it. I saw Him offer me true and sacrificial love after my whole mess of concealing, and then going wild, just like Elsa. Elsa was trying to figure out what the heck to do with herself and making a mess the whole way. She couldn’t even get away from herself and what she was causing when she wanted to. But Jesus…. I cried and thought and prayed for an hour after that movie. It literally changed my life.

      I’m super conservative when it comes to movies, but Frozen is probably the most truth-laden Disney movie I’ve ever seen and I can’t wait to share all of its humor and truth (they even got the “You can’t change him” in the fixer-upper song right!) with my kids (Lord-willing) one day. I will have a clear conversation with my girls about the meaning of the Let it Go song for all the reasons Aprille shared. For my own heart though, it’s one of my favorite songs and one I’ve played on repeat even to help me walk through the journey through my confusion and pain of the past. It’s so freeing, but only because I know the truth and to me “Let it Go” almost means more about letting go of my perfection, legalism, etc. I know that’s not what all the song is talking about, but God has just so richly ministered to me through this precious movie and even this crazy secularly written song. <3

  4. To me (especially as a recovering alcoholic) it is a story of recovery, hope, and strength. Elsa finally got tired of hiding her defects and went wild. She gave up and secluded herself thinking that she was free to do anything. She felt that she had no hope at stopping herself, was tired of trying, and just went wild.

    It took Anna to point out that her seclusion was hurting others with an enternal winter. Elsa struggled with this so much and couldn’t figure out how to make this work and in her frustration she hurt her sister once again. She hated herself for it and was so scared and lost. Until she fully surrendered to her sisters love and just let God take over could she find peace. Not only that, but she learned to not only use, but boast of her defects/weaknesses for good (2 Corinthians 12:10).

    It is a story of being special, learning how to be special, and how to share your special, aka EXTRA. See this take on it! http://momastery.com/blog/2014/01/27/frozen/

  5. I think you’re looking a bit too deep there. In this scene she’s decided to become a hermit and cut herself off from humanity. Therefore there are no rules, as anything she does will have no impact on anyone else. She can do what she wants and play around with her ice powers with no fear of harming anyone, like she did Anna. She is now literally ‘free’ to test and try her powers as much as she wants; dress and walk and live as she wants, without offending anyone.

    • On the contrary, her selfish letting go is affecting everyone with an endless winter. She struggles with how to then deal with that as we see during the song “For the first time in forever (reprise)” and takes it to a level of anger that scares even herself. She hurts Anna yet again in her irresponsible desire to just be left alone and wild because she believes that she CAN’T control herself.

  6. I am so happy someone else caught this! Not in a judgmental way, but that someone somewhere else was sitting in a theater with in that uneasy sense that this will be the only message young girls will display on banners for themselves. It shocks me that, while musically, it was a fantastic song, this seems to be where everyone gets stuck in the story.

    Not the rest of the movie where she realizes that the attitude sported in this performance left her alone, bitter, closed and even hostile to the world and to the pursuant love of her sister. No one remembers that in the end, Elsa learns that fear is the opposite of love and reforms her attitude to be more loving.

    No, everyone is so hyper focused on the ‘feel good’ song of ‘let it go’. It also seems that, when this message is called into question, you are accused of being a close-minded, hateful person who is intolerant to others.

    All this to say, Thank you. For being brave enough to point this out. I am not married, I have no children, and I still had to question what this song’s message was doing in the hearts of young girls.

    • Glad someone else saw it!! You are right. People have directed some pretty frustrated comments at my husband and I for picking up on this stuff and “ruining” the movie that’s supposedly positive and uplifting and great for families.

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  8. M.K.

    You know, I disagree. It comes at the midpoint of the movie, and it IS the “villain” song. I know little girls may not get it, but I, as a woman, really appreciated it. And the musical language also conveyed that subtly. It is really masterful music writing, and It ends with an unresolved chord that conveys to me that not everything is right about this picture.

    It may go over kid’s heads, but the intent of the song (and the plot of the movie bears this out) is that she has gone too far in the wrong direction. I appreciate that the song speaks not just to kids, but to the adults they WILL be. I see that song as not speaking down to them. I think it’s a great teachable moment, and I will use it as such for my own kids. I’ll ask them if they think it’s a good thing or a bad thing she’s isolated, and that she doesn’t care about how the storm is hurting other people. I’ll ask them how they feel about it that she’s not a bad person, and whether she still needs to try to fix it. This is a good way to teach about intentions and impact. It is a complex ethical question, and I really love it for that reason. I think kids CAN handle that. Maybe not at four, but at 8 or 9, sure.

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