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  1. Erin

    Found your blog via your comment on Kelly’s modesty post at “Imperfect Homemaking”. Appreciated the heart you shared in this post and your heart for the real purpose of modesty.

  2. I love this series and the lessons you capture in it. Thank you for linking up at More to Be for Transformed Tuesdays. I look forward to reading more!

  3. Anonymous

    Beautiful post! I find the most important trait that a woman can posses is self confidence and a lot of the shame and fear focused messages on modesty and other subjects in church when I grew up created some very insecure girls who in turn became the very opposite of modest in a quest for attention and acceptance.

  4. […] Introduction: some self-observations about legalism Part 1: what is “legalism”? Part 2: standing under the broken heart Part 3: hiding in shame, packing up my dreams Part 4: when you “trust and obey” but your heart still gets broken Part 5: when you’ve been hurt by legalism, hold onto faith Part 6: What do Brad Pitt, Josh Groban, and Sleepless in Seattle have in common? Part 7: perfection is not possible Part 8: finding healing and freedom in secular music Part 9: “I will keep believing that God still has a plan” Part 10: Plan A, 2.0 Part 11: Modesty: a picture of grace […]

  5. Thank you for sharing your heart on this topic. Your words come across in a clear and loving manner. It really is an issue of the heart, isn’t it? Isn’t all of our life an issue of the heart with God? I touched just a bit on this modest/clothing in my own recent post about thoughts from the book The Hidden Art of Homemaking.
    I appreciate what you said: “From the time I was a little girl I had an inflated view of modesty” – interesting how we put just burdensome boundaries on ourselves, thinking they are from God.
    stopping by from Fellowship Fridays

    • Thank you so much for your comment! It’s good to know that I come across as clear and loving because it’s a hard balance to find sometimes!

  6. Anna Ferrar

    “. . .an over-emphasis on modesty draws attention to the female body in a different way. It is objectified, not as something to be lusted after, but as something to be feared and ashamed of. The outward appearance is still focused on, just in a different way.”

    ^ one of the best things I’ve ever read.

    Here’s my two cents:
    I’m pro modesty. I ardently believe in covering up the sensual parts of our body. Even so, I’m pretty sick of Christians bashing women like we have some of kind of problem (our body) that needs to be fixed (with covering up every inch) because quite frankly, God made us this way, made us with these bodies. We can only hide so much. We’re women.

    Frankly, we’re human beings and God gave us these beautiful bodies (both male and female) for a reason and though I believe in chaste dressing, I think people need to take a break and focus on other aspects of godly living rather than the constant “is lip gloss provocative” or “is layering low cut tops seducing” ect mumbo jumbo.

    In short, another excellent article. Thank you. :)

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