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  1. Annah

    Love reading your blogs! You are so real and transparent and I know you resonate with many. You have to be a part of WOW Bible Study with me this fall. I’m teaching Let it Go by Karen Ehman. This type A mama needs all the help and accountability she can get so teaching a class is a great place to start. To sum it up…God called and He’d like his job back! You are a great writer.I need to hook you up with writing some devos for a ministry I am a part of. Let me know if you are interested. Hugs!

  2. Melissa @ Freeing Imperfections

    I found your post on Pinterest, and I couldn’t help but click on it. Being a perfectionist myself (or recovering one, as I’d like to think, but not really), I can relate to this so much.

    I’m not a mom yet, but it overwhelms me so much to think about, probably because everything in my life will be out of my control at that point. I cannot control a small child, what it needs, when it gets sick. I can’t control the mess that will come with it. And I am most scared about not being able to control child birth!

    I realize, though, that like you, I am probably in the stage of still trying to be the perfect wife, even though I don’t mean to try and be that. I love this post so much. Thanks for opening up!

    • Realizing that you have the problem is half the battle. Just try to remember to relax about life in general. Practice being okay with being less than perfect. Ask God to open your eyes to the areas in which you are trying to control!

  3. […] Introduction: some self-observations about legalism Part 1: what is “legalism”? Part 2: standing under the broken heart Part 3: hiding in shame, packing up my dreams Part 4: when you “trust and obey” but your heart still gets broken Part 5: when you’ve been hurt by legalism, hold onto faith Part 6: What do Brad Pitt, Josh Groban, and Sleepless in Seattle have in common? Part 7: perfection is not possible Part 8: finding healing and freedom in secular music Part 9: “I will keep believing that God still has a plan” Part 10: Plan A, 2.0 Part 11: Modesty: a picture of grace Part 12: Disconnect: when God just doesn’t seem relevant Part 13: Roses in the dumpster: seeing God in everyday life Part 14: Cheating on my church Part 15: Can you hear Jesus calling? Part 16: Checklists, control, and motherhood […]

  4. Yes, we love the checklists. We love the idea that we can reach a standard. But it’s all foolishness. I so relate to your desire to control, your desire to reach perfection. The Lord has been speaking to me about this issue a lot lately! And the more I hear his voice, the more I realize that I have a problem. I’m so thankful for Grace, for second chances, for u-turns. :) You might enjoy a post I wrote recently called “Through My Grace-colored Glasses” about my run-in with Mr. Perfectionism. It was somewhat of a light-bulb moment for me. Thanks for sharing this! Jen :)

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