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This post is part 1 in a new blog series that I have entitled “the wilderness between legalism and grace,” in which I talk about the part of my life when I struggled between rejection of legalism and fully embracing God’s grace in my life. You can read the introduction to this series here this post, “some self-observations about legalism.” My intent with this series is to share how I came to realize that I had an incorrect view of God and self and how I became free of the system of legalism whereby I was trying to earn God’s favor.
It is my prayer that Christians who are grappling with these concepts can find clarity, hurting Christians can find comfort, broken Christians can find healing, and tired Christians can find rest in God’s grace by walking through my story with me.
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After some prayerful consideration of the objective and direction of this series, I feel that it is necessary to share what I mean when I use the term “legalism.”
When I was living a legalistic lifestyle, I never would have called myself legalistic.
Instead, it was words like these that ruled my life:
Some of these words come straight out of the Bible. And inherently, it’s not the actions of these phrases that I am denouncing in this series. Rather, it is the motivation and intention behind those actions.
One of the best phrases on the list that is used to mask legalism is “trying to please God,” because it touches on the true motivation of most people entrapped in legalism.
We WANT the approval, the love, and the acceptance of God. And forgetting that Christ earned that acceptance for us, we try to earn it through our actions.
We know that we are saved by grace, and that there is nothing we can do to earn salvation, eternal life, our place in heaven:
For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast. (Ephesians 2:8-9)
And we can spout off the true meaning of justification (knowing that God views our eternal standing as “just as if” we had never sinned because he sees the righteousness of God).
Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ: (Romans 5:1)
But when it comes to our “Christian walk” – we don’t live our lives like we are justified. We know we can’t lose our salvation, but we obsess constantly about losing our fellowship with God.
Verses like “your iniquities have separated between you and your God” (Is. 59:2) and “if I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear me” (Ps. 66:18) ring loud in our minds every time we do something that the Bible or others deem as sinful.
So, inevitably, we become bound by the guilt and shame of knowing we can’t measure up to God’s holiness, constantly worrying about our standing before Him, forgetting that we are His, forever – already chosen, holy, and dearly loved (Col. 3:12).
So, for purposes of this series, I define Christian legalism this way:
Legalism is a system whereby a Christian believes he must earn God’s every-day favor, acceptance, and fellowship through strict adherence to a behavioral code which most often is based on fallen man’s interpretation of Scripture.
This legalistic system originates within the mind of the believer, but is perpetuated by external sources, especially Christian authority figures. The desire for God’s acceptance within the believer is so strong that he becomes more vulnerable to the disapproval of man, especially those who are in authority over him and assert said authority. Often this system leads believers to confuse the favor of God with the acceptance of man, or even blend them completely.
I’m not claiming to have the perfect or the best definition of legalism- I’m simply trying to define the term for purposes of this blog series. Over the next few weeks I will be sharing my story of how I came to realize that I was living a legalistic life and how God brought me freedom and led me into His grace.
I’d love to hear from you. Do you feel like this definition is accurate? What would you add or detract? Have you ever hidden behind some of those “good” phrases only to realize that you were really just trying to earn God’s acceptance?
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As a recovering perfectionist, I would say that I spent at least the first 2/3 of my Christian walk falling into the trap of legalism without even realizing it! In some ways, I still fight that beast today, although I’m quicker to recognize it. 🙂 I think the definition is accurate, and the part of legalism that I so easily fall prey to is trying to “be good” in my own strength rather than just allowing His goodness to flow through me. If I find myself thinking or saying, I’m trying so hard to ______, then I’m not in a good place. Because, as you voiced above, it’s not about my weak efforts, it’s about His Son and who I am in Him. 🙂
I too am a recovering perfectionist. Perfectionism and legalism have so many similarities, in reality legalism is simply hyper-spiritualized perfectionism. Recovering from both at the same time is a struggle!
Thank you so much for sharing your perspective!
this is a great post! I grew up in a very legalistic brand of christianity as well. It is so freeing to step out from that and see the beauty of God’s grace! thanks for sharing so openly about your journey. I pray it helps many people who read it!
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Someone linked to this series in the comments section of another blog I stumbled across.
Your definition is very good. When I was at my school, they defined legalism as “working for salvation” which is deceptive, misguided, and allowed them to continue teaching that you needed their (as an authority set up by God) approval.
You nailed it.
I am looking forward to the rest of the series.
Thank you.
I agree. In my opinion, “legalism” and “works-based salvation” are NOT the same thing. Perhaps a more accurate way to describe legalism would be to call it “works based sanctification.”
And I would love to know the original place you found this linked – just so I can thank them.
I’ve stumbled on your blog from Elizabeth Esther’s blog roundup and was immediately drawn to this series, as we have recently left our own legalistic church and are looking for a grace-based home church. Thanks so much for saying so well the things I’ve been thinking but couldn’t put into words. I knew our church didn’t believe in works based salvation, but works based sanctification – exactly! I’ll probably have more comments as I read more. 🙂
Hi Holly! Thank you so much for taking the time to read through my entire series. I know it’s time consuming, and so glad it was helpful to you. So proud of you and your family for being brave and seeking a more grace-filled environment.
There is nothing that I can do (or not do) that will make our God love me less or more. He loves me unconditionally.
So true.
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